Every so often, thoughts like how some men can be so possessive of their partners, and how some women can be equally as needy cross my mind. About how some women just let their men (or vice versa) control their lives and isolate them from everything they used to do. Isn’t it just plain selfish? I have my own life too, thank you very much. If you are in a relationship, isn’t learning how to trust your partner the most elementary thing to do?
Another typical issue is security. Or the lack thereof. We all have our insecurities, and that is a fact. But there is no point in being paranoidly strict to your partner just because you feel the fear of losing him over someone every single time he goes out without you. Perhaps you’re doubting the future, or questioning why he is with you. What you need to do is realize that he is with you because he loves you. Trust him. Remember that trust between partners is one of the keys to a fulfilling relationship. And before building up that mutual trust, one very important thing you must do is to trust yourself, too. Trust yourself so you can trust you partner. And if you do lose him over someone or something else, then he’s not worth it. Plain and simple. Would you want to be stuck with someone only because he’s the only one, at the moment, who can fill your need to be needed? You are strong and independent. You don’t need a man to tell you what and what not to do. You will survive without a man. Keep that as a mindset. You aren’t inadequate, believe you me. You just have to find someone who doesn’t make you feel that you are. So, I’m telling you now, and I will tell you again if I have to: there will always be somebody.
Being in an unhealthy relationship is destructive. There is no need to stay if the both of you are just pulling each other down. You’ll go around in circles, and you will never have room for personal growth. Having and retaining your individuality is very crucial to a relationship’s course, so never try to change everything about your partner. You love him, therefore you accept him and all the eccentricities that come with him. Relationships are two-way. If you have any kind of doubts, that’s something you need to address somehow, not ignore. No matter what, though, you need to talk to your partner about it because it’s something you both need to work on because being partners means you are a team, no matter what.
Or you could just stay or be single. It’ll save you the drama.
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You aren’t inadequate. You just have to find someone who doesn’t make you feel that you are. – love it!
Thank you, ate Kei. This post made me realize a few things. However, I need to learn from experience. 🙂
ouch! hahaha. damn true. may sasabihin ako sayo Later.. so, see you~ :*
AHA. Thumbs up Loves. This is a nice blog. :))
I can’t help but agree with all the points you have in this post sis. Girls are like this and that. Men are equally this and that too.
Whew. However, I wish we would all find the love of our lives soon. 🙂
awwww..I super agree to this sis! amen na amen to that!
as in! I don’t understand why some women are so needy or “martyr”
na kahit niloloko/sinasaktan na sila eh mahal pa rin nila yung taong yun.
I don’t think that guy loves that girl so much pag sinasaktan niya ito.
nakuuu.. there are so many fishes in the sea. nyahahaha.. diba sis?? 😀
True! Mindset kasi. “If I leave him, who else will love me?” Hindi naman right away meron. Hindi naman required na palaging meron. May mga tao lang talaga na ganon ang mindset.
AMEN!
I just remember some things and someone while reading your post 😐
Being in love doesn’t require us to be martir in any way yet some people do anyway. If we love, we have to know certain limitation. Being loved we shouldn’t be forced to change. Great pointers. Keep smiling and may you be blessed.
Actaully what I used to say is that I often fall in love with a Knight in his Shining Aluminum Foil and not armor. I have been fooled. LOL. I am happy now and I have proven that I should have never looked. He will come when it is time. 🙂
Omy. I super agree with this. as in super! Naka relate ako sa lahat. hahaha :3 I was like that before. but then again. Experience is the best teacher so I learned. hihhi :3
Glad to hear that you did. I vowed never to do the same mistakes of the past, too. Look at me now, I’m really happy. Single or not. 😀
Awww. ): There’s a lot of things that went thru my mind as I was reading this. Whenever I read blogs like this, or stories even, I can’t help but think of where I’m at. We’re not a bad couple, we’re just in a rough patch. I’m just too weak to do anything about it, that maybe if I did, he’ll change his mind about me. I know that if I let things go the way they are right now, I’m sure I’ll break down soon. I don’t have any idea what to do, but I’m leaving it to him. I’ve done so much, and he hasn’t. I guess I’ll just let him lead our relationship back to where we were, and if he doesn’t, then I guess we’re getting closer to being apart for real. I really can’t handle it by myself anymore. I like the drama, but this is too much.
I’m not sure what that said about me but I hope I didn’t sound like an obsessive girl. I tend to be one most of the time. Haha! Thank you for this sissy. 🙂
You’re welcome. As much as I want to speak my mind regarding that, I can’t, since I don’t know what you both have gone through. I just wish that he’ll realize your worth soon enough and get his act up. Keep smiling Chie. You did your part, and that IS enough.
Hahaha! Oooops. I made it to the wrong post, haha should be Career 101., haha.,! Relationship is a NO NO.. 😛 Lol!