Every so often, thoughts like how some men can be so possessive of their partners, and how some women can be equally as needy cross my mind. About how some women just let their men (or vice versa) control their lives and isolate them from everything they used to do. Isn’t it just plain selfish? I have my own life too, thank you very much. If you are in a relationship, isn’t learning how to trust your partner the most elementary thing to do?
Another typical issue is security. Or the lack thereof. We all have our insecurities, and that is a fact. But there is no point in being paranoidly strict to your partner just because you feel the fear of losing him over someone every single time he goes out without you. Perhaps you’re doubting the future, or questioning why he is with you. What you need to do is realize that he is with you because he loves you. Trust him. Remember that trust between partners is one of the keys to a fulfilling relationship. And before building up that mutual trust, one very important thing you must do is to trust yourself, too. Trust yourself so you can trust you partner. And if you do lose him over someone or something else, then he’s not worth it. Plain and simple. Would you want to be stuck with someone only because he’s the only one, at the moment, who can fill your need to be needed? You are strong and independent. You don’t need a man to tell you what and what not to do. You will survive without a man. Keep that as a mindset. You aren’t inadequate, believe you me. You just have to find someone who doesn’t make you feel that you are. So, I’m telling you now, and I will tell you again if I have to: there will always be somebody.
Being in an unhealthy relationship is destructive. There is no need to stay if the both of you are just pulling each other down. You’ll go around in circles, and you will never have room for personal growth. Having and retaining your individuality is very crucial to a relationship’s course, so never try to change everything about your partner. You love him, therefore you accept him and all the eccentricities that come with him. Relationships are two-way. If you have any kind of doubts, that’s something you need to address somehow, not ignore. No matter what, though, you need to talk to your partner about it because it’s something you both need to work on because being partners means you are a team, no matter what.
Or you could just stay or be single. It’ll save you the drama.