Disclaimer: There are a lot of lazy people in the world. This is about the rest of us who are getting bad rep.
I’m spontaneous. Some people think that’s a flaw. I think it’s brilliant. And FYI: Planning and spontaneity are not mutually exclusive. At a moment’s notice I’m ready for a summer road trip. Movies? Sure! Coffee tonight? Why not? We can be there in a couple of hours. I’m basically up for anything at anytime.
Now while I may spend the majority of my days egotistically thinking I’m super awesome and rare, I would hedge my bets that there are lots of lovely ladies out there just like me. Ladies who have careers, ladies who have friends, ladies who have goals, dreams and priorities. Frankly, Ladies who have shit to do — AND YET — ladies who have time to go out. Like I have time to go out. Ladies like me, who are available. And not because we’re bummers. Or losers. Weak or sad.
We’re just simply smarter than you. Allow me to elaborate.
The biggest complaint I hear from people (when I’m trying to hang out, or when they’re trying to hang out) is that they’re busy. They’re tired. They’ve just got so much going on *stifles eye roll* But here’s the thing of the thing: There are a lot of hours in the day. There are a lot of days in a week and weeks in a month. Our lives are fucking filled with time. So why can’t these people find any of it? I honestly couldn’t tell. It baffles me to no end.
Logic tells me that fun, y’know, is fun. Experience tells me that fun is awesome. And since you can never have too much awesome in your life, logic tells me that you would want to squeeze every drop you can of it into your life. I mean honestly. Now sometimes things don’t work out and schedules collide, and other times there simply aren’t any plans to be made. And that leaves all that lovely room for spontaneity.
I know that people often want to leave their options open. They don’t want to commit to a plan, or a person, or an idea for the weekend. And that’s fine. Go ahead and wrap yourself up in your issues. It could very well work out awesomely for you. I’m not saying I have all the answers. I’m just offering an alternative perspective. A reason he doesn’t answer your texts. A reason he cuts ties after three weeks without connecting for a date. So like I said, I don’t know all the answers. Not by a long shot. But I do know about smart chicks. And I know about awesomeness. And I know about having the most fun possible. So with all those said, I leave you with this:
I beg you. Next time you meet someone who only wants to make advance plans with you, or calls you on a Tuesday to make plans for the same night, try to remember: While it is possible she’s just bored or clingy, it’s just as likely that she’s awesome…and quite simply smarter than you. So get that brain power up. Step it up a notch, get your shit together and get the most out of your life. Or don’t. I mean, do what you want. But don’t be shocked when you call on a Saturday and she’s busy. And the best thing that might have ever happened to your stressful week, who might know the solutions to your problem, is booked solid.